Women, Be Kind to Yourself: Find Mental Clarity & Resilience with My Release & Re-Align Online Program

When I say this blog is for me - it is! It's a reminder to myself and you that our bodies are our guides and when we stop listening all hell breaks loose.

For many mid-life women, life feels like a constant juggle—teenagers doing exams, ageing parents needing care, all while your body navigates the hormonal shifts of menopause. It’s exhausting, both physically and emotionally. And often, the first thing to drop off the list is you.

I hit a wall in March. Instead of feeling energised by exercise (my norm), I felt shattered. I took time off work, retreated, took a 30min daily stroll, ate more protein and carbs and began to re-charge my batteries.

The Hidden Weight of Stress

Stress isn’t just something we “deal with.” It affects every system in the body—from your heart rate and digestion to your immune response and sleep cycles. Chronic stress leads to inflammation, and that inflammation is now linked to everything from cardiovascular disease to mood disorders.

“The mind and body are not separate. What affects one, affects the other.”—Dr. Candace Pert.

When the pressure mounts, it’s easy to get stuck in a negative loop: “I can’t cope,” “Everything’s too much,” “I’m failing.” But these thoughts aren’t harmless—they’re powerful. UK research has found that repetitive negative thinking (RNT) can increase risk of cognitive decline and physical illness. Your thoughts shape your biology.

In 2020, University College London published a four-year study involving 360 adults over the age of 55. The researchers found that participants who regularly engaged in repetitive negative thinking (RNT)—such as excessive worrying or dwelling on the past—had a greater cognitive decline than those who didn’t.

In 2013, the University of Liverpool conducted the UK's largest stress test in collaboration with the BBC. The online study involved over 32,000 people and found that the way individuals responded to life events—particularly through rumination and self-blame—was the biggest predictor of stress, anxiety, and depression, even more than the events themselves. In other words, it’s not just what happens to us, but how we think about it that affects our health.

Acts of Kindness—To Others and Yourself

Here’s some good news: kindness is a form of medicine. Studies from the University of Sussex show that performing acts of kindness—even small ones like sending a caring message or making someone a cup of tea—can boost serotonin and oxytocin, reducing stress and lifting your mood.

But what about kindness to yourself?

Self-kindness might mean:

• Saying “no” without guilt.

• Letting yourself rest without needing to “earn it.”

• Doing something just for you, every single day.

2 Practical Ways to be Kind to Yourself

Breathe better: Your Built-In Reset Button

One of the simplest and fastest ways to reduce stress is through your breath. When you take slow, intentional breaths, you signal to your body that you're safe. Your heart rate slows, your muscles release tension, and your mind starts to clear.

Try this now: Inhale for 4… Hold for 4… Exhale for 6…Repeat for a minute. Feel any different? This is just one technique you’ll find in my online Release & Re-align Program, which includes guided breathwork sessions designed for anyone navigating chronic stress.

Release & Re-Align with the Miracle Ball Method

Have you ever noticed how stress settles in your body? Tight hips, aching back, tense shoulders? The Miracle Ball Method is a gentle, restorative approach using small squishy balls to release deep muscular tension. By lying on the balls and breathing deeply, you create space for your body to decompress. It’s like giving yourself a massage and a meditation in one. It encourages your nervous system to relax, improves posture, and helps realign both your body and your mindset.

The Release & Re-align Program I created is ideal for women juggling it all. Just 15mins a day at home to:

• Clear your mind

• Loosen physical tension

• Calm your nervous system

• Build emotional resilience

You don’t need to be “zen.” You just need to be willing to start

The Power of a Daily Pause

What would change if you gave yourself just 15 minutes a day? Not to scroll, or to “get ahead,” but to be with yourself—to unwind, breathe, and reconnect.

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”—Anne Lamott

Be Kind to Yourself

Mid-life can be a demanding time for women. But within the chaos, you can find moments of calm. With the right support, you can feel more centred, more grounded, and more in control. Be kind to yourself with positive thoughts, and a daily 15min self-care practise to switch off, tune in to your body and release tension.

For inspiration, join my Release & Re-align Program for 7 days free access by signing up to a monthly membership here. Discover how small daily rituals can restore your body and create emotional resilience.